Monday, October 10, 2011

The Trouble of Locating Beauty and Joy in Housework


I've been reading about work in Elisabeth Elliot this morning, three articles in a row concerning an area of my life in which I greatly struggle. I don't fully understand the problem.

I have a bad habit of only doing as much work as I feel like doing on any given day. And yet, in principle, I like work. I like the idea of being productive, taking care of my family, providing a pleasant and fun living environment, doing paperwork for the church, assisting my husband. I like the idea of getting down to the hard work of reading and writing, and going after it with a will. When I had a job outside the home, I was up and down out of my chair all the time, always looking for the next thing I could do, the next way I could get a little exercise. So why is it that I don't enjoy doing the work at home?

Meal planning is like paperwork. Going to the grocery store is an outing which involves using my muscles to move products from one location to another, stretching my legs as I move from aisle to aisle, running with the cart exuberantly, and as it happens, serving the parking attendants by moving my cart, and other stray ones, to the appropriate cart receptacles is the part of the outing I most enjoy, yet I hate going grocery shopping. I'll put it off as many days as possible, until the milk runs out. In truth there is no form of shopping that appeals to me more than any other, though looking for books at the thrift store brings the best rewards.

Vacuuming doesn't please me, nor does making dinner. Laundry can be enjoyable if I get it started early enough in the day.

As I say, I don't understand what is this problem I have with work? It isn't that domesticity is beneath me, yet I experience mostly confusion when asked to help with preparing or cleaning up food. I'd like to be energized by house work. I'd like for my children to see it being done, to absorb the making and execution of a schedule, the joy that can be had in mastering an arduous task. I'd like to be more grateful for my work, to do it as unto the Lord, to put my intellectual tasks in their proper place, and progress in them, though not at the expense of the housework. I'd like to enjoy those times when I am at my leisure heartily and not with ennui. These times should be meaningful. I should come to know my children through the time I spend with them. Be ever mindful of, and curious about, my husband's interests and concerns.

I should walk the dog in the morning. I should worship the Lord at night.

I wish it would happen naturally. I wish it wouldn't take so much work. What would be required for such a momentous change to occur? How do you find the balance between finding the modes of expression that are yours, and imposing the discipline of the every day? How does one become good without also becoming a perfectionist? How does one serve God properly and well?

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